Notice: I apologize to any Millenial reading this post who may have a short attention span as some work will be required on your part to understand the gist of my subject. Please reference the hyperlinks.
If you take a close look at a job opening for RFMD as an RFIC & Module Design Engineer versus that of Wendy’s for a Crew Member, you’ll see some noticeable differences. On RFMD’s description alone it is slathered with acronyms most of us, including myself, don’t know the meaning of. There are also extensive requirements the average person would not have accomplished. Although both use colorful wording, Wendy’s solicitation of employment is shorter in length, does not require a unique skill set, high education level, or prior training. The summaries don’t specify compensation, but one can infer the pay isn’t as lucrative for the latter in comparison to the former.
I mention all of that to say this; the alleged relationship experts and gurus are wrong (and money hungry). They would have us believe we are in error for having high standards and dating would be so much easier if we’d just let our guard down. I’m not buying it. Dating would be easier for women if we weren’t so pressed to not be single.
If you consider yourself an H.B.I.C., then men opposed to dominant women with a lot of attitude pride need not apply. If you’re an outgoing adventure seeker, then homebodies need not apply. If your goal is to have a relationship whose end result is marriage, why are you accepting applications from part-timers?
We, ladies, talk that talk about knowing our worth and being priceless. If you’re priceless, you shouldn’t be looking for someone who can afford you but someone who understands you. *Spoiler Alert* There is a trade off. Once you decide what you want, don’t want, are willing to deal with, and are not willing to deal with there will be a long period of singledom. Why? Because your requests are going to narrow the pool of qualified applicants. How many employed, attractive, single, straight, no-baby-mama-drama men do you know your age that are willing to forgo sex before marriage?
I have a friend in her mid-twenties who has never been in love or had a “real” boyfriend. It bothers her, but I told her like I’m telling you; you can be satisfied and single. I’m not talking about the women crying, “I don’t need a man,” neck roll and all. They’re egos are perverting the truth. No one, man or woman, should seek another person to complete him or her to make him or herself happy. Be real with who you are and what you have to bring to the table. Then wait. It may be months or years, but you must be willing to wait. Greatness doesn’t come overnight (or with a one night stand). I know that’s a hard pill to swallow in our fast food, instant grits society which is why patience really is a virtue. (I’m still working on it.) I’m not saying not to date proactively, but don’t water down the job description to fit someone else’s persona.
It’s about that time for a quarterly review. Take inventory of your relationships and fire anyone who does not provoke your potential. Delete. Unfriend. Deuces. Any way you slice it, “Ain’t nobody got time for dat!”