Each One Teach One: My First Family Bible Study

mom and son artMy 8-year-old son’s father committed suicide in 2012. It’s hard to explain to a child why he isn’t going to see his daddy anymore. It’s even more challenging to talk about what happens after a person dies considering I’m a Christian and his father (and his family) is Jehovah’s Witness. Though his questions may be difficult to answer, I can’t allow him to be misguided.

He’s on punishment this week for previous misconduct. Usually I’d give him busy work and reading assignments since he can’t enjoy playing his Nintendo DS or watching television. Instead, I printed a Bible-in-a-year reading plan that he and I are going to begin. I’ve read the Bible before but not with complete understanding. The first time around, finishing was more of a concern than applying God’s word. This time I aim not only to gain understanding but to help build my son’s faith as we seek the answers to so many of his burning questions.

600-00934291I have a paperback New King James Version as well has a hardback New Living Translation Bible. Since we would be reading together, I opted to bring the English Standard Version of the Bible up on my computer so that we could view a larger print/font. I also opened an additional webpage for the dictionary to clarify words he didn’t yet know the meaning of.

At the start of our session I explained to him why we were going to read together. Whether its biology, geometry, or U.S. history; many of the things he will be taught in school will be instructed through the use of a text-book. An acronym I learned as a child growing up in church stated B.I.B.L.E. stand for basic instructions before leaving earth. This is the most important book he will ever read. Also, in the same manner you may discover something new after watching a movie you’ve already seen; you can never stop learning from the gems of the Bible. Lastly, it’s important to not only know the answer but to know why you know the answer. I want his faith in God to be biblically based, not just a form of tradition or blind faith-based on what Momma said.

On the first night we covered Genesis 1-3. When he began reading, I could tell he was excited. He read as if he were proclaiming the good news in front of a congregation. There was so much cheer and pride in his voice. We stopped in between the verses as they described the days of creation to review. After finishing chapter 1, I gave him a worksheet where he could match each day to what God did on that day. He worked through it the same way he has a tendency to rush through his homework for the sake of finishing and moving on to “play time”. I asked, “Why are you rushing? What do you plan on doing after this? You’re not going to watch television or play any of your games, so you might as well take your time and do this right.” He started to cry. I was angry but didn’t want to chastise him in a way that would cause him to relate Bible study to a chore or a punishment. It was neither. It was a privilege and likened to a treasure hunt.

After summarizing the gift and importance of reading the Bible with intention, things went smoothly. Chapter 2 describes the creation of man and chapter 3 narrates the fall of man. He has heard the story before from children’s church but not with the depth in which we read I presume. What did God tell Adam? What did Eve tell the serpent? How were they different? How did the serpent tempt Eve? Why didn’t Adam say anything to stop her? What was the first thing Adam and Eve did after they sinned? He offered his own opinions to my probing questions.adam & eve

We were having fun until it was time for him to complete the rest of his worksheets. There was a word search, a crossword puzzle, a maze, and key words to unscramble. It was after his bedtime of 9 o’clock when he groaned he couldn’t find everything on the word search. He had found them all except 2. I glanced at the sheet to make sure they were there and told him to keep trying. I walked away but heard him start to cry…again. The Bible lesson turned into a life lesson. There’s a saying that you don’t cry over spilled milk, or in other words, things that don’t matter. As upsetting as his response to the worksheet was, it reminded me that people (adults included) have a similar reaction to challenges. We give up too easily. We aren’t willing to work on something that takes more time than expected. We want answers (and much more) handed to us. Matthew 7:7 says to seek in order to find. Not cry and find. Not complain and find. Not procrastinate and find. Seek! He eventually found the last 2 words but not until I confirmed that they were there. I ignited his hope. If he truly believed the words weren’t there he would have given up; maybe even pretended as if he had found them just so he could finish.

I truly enjoyed our time together with God through His word. My foundation of faith began as a child and now my son’s will too.

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Mr. Tacky McCreepster: 9 Side Eye Worthy Things Women Wish Men Wouldn’t Do

princeLast year was the first (and last) time I have ever lent a guy money. We had been dating for a short time; maybe 6 or 7 weeks. His request seemed simple and harmless. One day we were walking together in Wal-Mart. I was picking up a few items. The only thing he needed to purchase was a calling card for his cell phone’s pre-paid plan. We got to the checkout lane, he put his item next to mine, and asked me to buy it assuring me he’d pay me back. I didn’t want to make a scene or cut him with my eyes. I paid for it under the assumption that he would pay me back. He never did. That relationship was short-lived; mostly because he was a liar, not just worthless cheap.

Fast forward to current day. I met a guy about 5 weeks ago. We’ve hung out a few times, have good conversation on the phone as well as in person, and he’s even visited my church. Today he told me there’s a 3 day certification course he wants to take to enhance his business, but he doesn’t have sufficient cash to sign up for it. I’m like, “and?” Why is he asking for my help? Do people think I’m well off? Even so, we don’t know each other like that. He’s not my family, and that’s the only exception when it comes to a man asking for money in my view. I told him to kick rocks try a Go Fund Me page. I’m so turned off right now and feel it might be helpful to let the fellas know the tacky, tired, and annoying things men do that us ladies wish they wouldn’t. Some of these may apply to both sexes, smh.

  1. If the street harassment video has taught you nothing else, please stop commanding telling us to smile. No one walks around with a permanent smile on their face. That’s just creepy.
  2. 1Stop being a lazy dater with this, “let’s chill” or “hang out” nonsense. I understand you may have been taken advantage of in the past by thirsty (and hungry) broads, but don’t make the next chick pay for the past chick’s transgressions. If you’re truly interested in getting to know a woman, be willing to invest your time and attention into her via a date. Not all dates require you to shell out loads of cash. Be creative (which we appreciate also).2
  3. Chill on social media. I made the mistake of adding someone as a friend to my Facebook page too soon and he went stalker mode on me. He liked 80+ pics…in ONE night!3
  4. Learn to take rejection graciously. True story…I left a bar downtown when this guy standing about 20 yards away catcalled me. First of all, why are you yelling like a negro uncivilized brute? I ignored him and proceeded across the street to my car. He then says, “Oh you can’t talk to nobody? I hope you get hit (by a car).”4
  5. Stop lying. If your mother hasn’t taught you this by now, when a woman asks a question, she usually knows the answer but wants to hear your response. A woman’s intuition is real.5
  6. Don’t ask for my number if you’re not going to use it. I don’t know why this happens, but it’s very confusing.8
  7. Be assertive, not aggressive. Shy guys will likely finish last. The worst thing a guy can do when he’s out with his boys is to send his wingman to a woman (or a group of women) like a pre-qualification application. Women need to feel safe. If you’re too scared to approach me, what confidence could I ever have that you’re “man enough” to protect me?9
  8. Stop expecting a trophy when you aren’t the real MVP aka have realistic expectations (men and women). Don’t expect more than you’re willing to give. If you want a woman with an hourglass figure who can cook while balancing the checkbook, be sure you’re that hardworking man with a six-pack who can change the car’s oil after taking out the trash (without being told to). 6
  9. Stop going MIA. Consistency is key. I despise the “hey stranger” texts and phone calls months after no contact. Be hot or cold, in or out. *A side note about communication* One day I will be married. I will see and/or communicate with my spouse daily. The boyfriend/girlfriend stage is like a prerequisite for what is (hopefully) to come. If a man can willingly go a full 7 days without speaking to me, that’s a red flag. 7

Ladies, what else am I missing? And I know the guys have some rebuttals for me. That’s okay. Communication is like a coin. There are two sides. You can’t have one without the other, and together they have value.